If any conversation belongs squarely in our “The Body Knows: Midlife In Our Skin” series, it’s this one, and for one simple reason — pleasure is a body conversation. Desire is a body conversation. And if midlife has shifted how you feel in your own skin, this episode meets you exactly there.
Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist, sex educator, and bestselling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband Xander. With over two decades of experience helping people dismantle shame and build genuinely intimate relationships, Vanessa brings the kind of candid, warm, and disarmingly funny voice this conversation has always needed.
Whether you’re partnered or solo, whether your sex life feels complicated or just quietly neglected, whether you’re carrying shame you never asked for — this one is for you. Vanessa is here to help us say yes to communication, to connection, and maybe most of all, to pleasure.
Here’s what we’re getting into:
- Why so many of us have deeply wired, shame-rooted reactions to sex — and where they actually come from
- Why Vanessa says you should start having sex like a man (yes, really)
- The myth about the female orgasm that most of us were never taught the truth about
- The best things you can do for your sex life that have nothing to do with taking your clothes off
- The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire — and why understanding this might change everything