Say Yes to Pleasure: How to Talk About Sex and Rekindle Intimacy in Midlife with Vanessa Marin
“A lot of people hear, she’s a sex therapist. They must have this incredible sex life. The reality is, we’ve been through ups and downs, too. I’ve internalized plenty of crap myself. And so I want people to understand we are all struggling with our sex lives, with our bodies in one way or another.”
Episode 63
With over two decades of experience in the field, Vanessa Marin is on a mission to help people break down shame, talk openly about sex, and create truly intimate relationships. As a a licensed psychotherapist, sex educator, and bestselling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which she co-wrote with her husband, Xander, Vanessa brings a candid, humorous, and deeply compassionate voice to a topic that too often stays in the dark
Whether your relationship is in a rut, your spark feels a little… dim, or you just want to feel more connected—to your partner and yourself—this one’s for you. Vanessa is going to help us say yes to communication, to connection, and maybe most of all, to pleasure.
Some topics we dig into:
- Why we have knee-jerk reactions to sex rooted in shame
- Why Vanessa says you should start having sex like a man
- The myth about the female orgasm
- The best things for your sex life that have nothing to do with taking off your clothes
- The difference between spontaneous desire versus responsive desire
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa Marin and Xander Marin
The Sex Talks Card Deck and Guidebook: 90 Prompts to Deepen Connection and Spark Intimacy
Vanessa and Xander’s Deeper Monthly Membership
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If you’re not sure where to begin, I got you, friend. I’m always bringing you something new to enjoy.
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